Four thousand years ago in
Babylonian times, resolutions were made with the
intention that what was done on the first day of
the New Year would be reflected in the remaining
days of the year. Incidentally, the
Babylonian New Year was celebrated in March to
coincide with the planting of the spring crops.
The Babylonians were in touch with the rhythms
of the seasons and farming.
Even today, four thousand years later, we
can draw upon the similarities between
harvesting of crops and bringing forth fruitful
results into our lives - resolutions are the
seeds; a mind full of good intentions and solid
beliefs is the fertile ground; positive thoughts
are the tending of the grounds; and the process
of obtaining desired results is in the seasons
with new beginnings, tending, harvesting and
If one has become so obsessed with
keeping up with the fast pace, one will have
created a gap between Nature and oneself.
One experiences a high level of enthusiasm in
the beginning of the New Year that springs forth
resolutions with high spirit, but shortly after
the year has begun, the resolutions fizzle out,
and one is unable to sustain the enthusiasm.
After the seeds have been sown, the newness of
the season moves into hot summer and now it is
time to tend the grounds with positive thoughts.
Instead of tending to the farm, what happens in
the real world is one gets busy doing other
things and the tending is ignored. The
very resolution that got one enthused in the
beginning becomes a cause for inner struggle and
dissatisfaction. The struggle exists
because one is unable to take the resolution any
further due to impatience, lack of commitment or
lack of understanding of the natural process of
bringing desired results to fruition.
The underlying intention is
the force, and the belief in oneself is the
focus that will tend the farm and carry the
enthusiasm to fruition. If the force and
focus are not aligned, the target will almost
always be missed. Therefore, more
important than the resolution itself is the
intention and the belief behind the resolution.
The question to contemplate is how does one
eliminate this obvious yet subtle discrepancy?
The process of eliminating
the discrepancy requires COURAGE, HONESTY,
INTROSPECTION and SLOWING DOWN. These four
ingredients will see one through the four
seasons. Let us take a closer look at each
of the four ingredients:
instance, one makes the resolution to manage
his/her temperament and stay calm in difficult
situations. It takes great courage to find
out why the anger exists in the first place and
what the underlying unresolved issues that keep
igniting the anger could possibly be. Or,
if one is looking to quit smoking, the question
he/she may ask is why does the addiction exist
in the first place? What unfulfilled need
is one replacing by the addiction to nicotine?
Before one desires the results, one should have
the courage to know and understand why the
desired result is non-existent in the first
Honesty: On has to be true to
oneself and own up to the self discoveries made
through courageous acts of introspection.
When the process of self discovery points at
oneself for sabotaging one’s own success
(inevitably it almost always does), then one
must be honest and own up to self sabotaging
beliefs, thoughts and behaviors. And then
one must be willing to take responsibility to
change those behaviors if one wants to see the
set resolution come to fruition.
Introspection is the most powerful tool.
One has mastered the art of examining others –
when one masters the art of examining one’s own
thoughts and feelings, then one would be able to
differentiate between the enabling and disabling
inner beliefs that facilitate or hinder the
process of achieving desired results.
Too much running around to keep up with the fast
pace canb only guarantee two things: Stress and
Errors. Down time is a must to gain
perspective and generate strategies for the
following round of the Four Seasons.
The discrepancy will be resolved when one
gains the COURAGE and takes the TIME to HONESTLY
INTROSPECT one’s own inner thoughts, feelings
Resolutions should not be a
weak commitment made in the excitement of the
New Year hype. Each commitment delivered
makes one strong and each commitment undelivered
makes one weak. Therefore, resolutions
backed with thought out intentions and carried
through the seasons will bring fruitful results
and make one a stronger person.
Before you make a commitment
to keep a New Year’s resolution, take some time
and answer the following questions with honesty:
Am I setting the resolution
to please myself or others?
Why is the desired result
missing in my life?
What underlying fears are
contributing to inner disabling beliefs?
Am I suppressing an unmet
need by setting resolutions in order to feel
better about myself?
Do I truly believe I can
achieve the desired result?
What are the other possible
factors that are stopping me from achieving
the desired result?
TIME, HONESTY and INTROSPECTION one can be sure
to achieve any resolution a mind can dare to