Some of us
have difficulty forgiving people who have hurt
us - perhaps parents who didn't express their
love, or whatever. I'm not suggesting that you
put yourself in unreasonable situations - I'm
simply saying that we all need to forgive and
forget, in our hearts, not for their sake, but
for ours. Give it up! Let it go! Why? Because it
will hurt you, in one way or another, much more
than the person who hurt you.
The question
is, are you willing to let it go? If the answer
is yes, here's an exercise that guaranteed to
work. Write down the names of persons, living or
dead, whom you feel have hurt you deeply. Next,
repeat the following exercise for each person
listed, one at a time, doing this daily for
twenty one days. First, make yourself
comfortable, close your eyes gently, and take
several, deep, relaxing breaths. Now, imagine
that you're sitting in a darkened theatre, third
row center, very relaxed. The curtain rises, and
the spotlight is on the person you've listed. At
this point, imagine... visualize, good things
happening to this person. Imagine them smiling,
happy - visualize things they enjoy, things that
make them happy. Hold this image for a few
moments, as long as possible, and let it
fade away. And that's it!
After doing
this exercise for 21 days, find as many good
qualities as you can about these people - the
more qualities you can find, the more it
indicates that your are healed and willing to
let go of what's bothering... guess who? YOU! If
you get "stuck" on any one person, it indicates
that you need to work on this some more. Begin
again, place this person on the "stage," and
keep looking for something positive until you
find it. Again, this is for YOUR physical and
emotional health. It's never too late to let go
of emotional garbage, at least from your
perspective.
